Doreen Virtue: Losing a New Age Spiritual Mentor

Doreen Virtue has been one of the most influential people on my New Age path. I started to pull away from her work over 2 years ago and more towards others because I found she wanted to make everything a fluffy cloud of positivity that wouldn’t offend anyone. While I am all about the effect of positivity on my life, I am still a H U M A N. I will not act in ways that aren’t in line with who I am in order to make anyone else feel “not offended.” I wanted someone to give me oracle cards with answers and guidance that weren’t all 100% fluffy, positive, etc. I wanted to be told the truth, straight up. I turned more towards Colette Baron-Reid’s oracle cards because they were both light filled and truth-straight-up-in-your face. I didn’t want to ignore my issues by constantly putting them on a fluffy cloud anymore. I wanted to know what my issues were so I could work through them. I still occasionally watched Doreen’s weekly YouTube videos over the past 2 years but did so a lot less than I used to when I watched them almost weekly. My astrology sun/moon combo specialty is truth telling when no one else will say the truth. Which is why I am very compelled to write this blog article in the first place. Continue reading

Where Love Intertwines with Sex and Where it Doesn’t

Why are we so dependent upon another human being for the love we are ‘supposed’ to be able to give ourselves? Why do we look to others to fill this void through sex and attention? Why do we need this connection even if we love ourselves? Why do we fill this void with many during our lifetime and sometimes with many at the same time? Why, in desperation will we settle for less-than in order to get what we need? And heart-breaking-ly, why does love, passion and sex fade over time within each relationship? Why do we think sex equals love? How can we heal ourselves in Mind, Body & Soul in regards to love and sex? It seems as if this article barely touches upon the dynamics of these questions as there is so much more going on than what I discuss below. I don’t have the answers but at least I’m asking questions and addressing the issues that I am feeling compelled to discuss.

Generations of Fault

I sit before you a being who has looked at their past and seen where the patterns were created, and known the answers for years now. I also take responsibility for the good/not-so-good choices I made in the past that have made me who I am today. Yet, no matter how much I fill my cup of love from within, I still crave, desire, need, deserve and want the touch, love, care, trust, sex, compliments, approval, attraction and deep intimate emotional connection with another. I know why this is such a big issue for me. I know my birth parents didn’t tell me they loved me, didn’t hug me, didn’t tell me I was pretty, didn’t pay attention to me, didn’t praise me, didn’t care to listen to me, wished I would just be quiet, didn’t teach me enough about life and didn’t protect me enough. I also know that they learned these behaviors from their own horrible relationships [or lack of them] with their birth parents. {I forgive you.} I know that I tried to do better with my children but the current state of affairs with them shows I was just as bad as anyone; even though I tried so hard. {I love and forgive myself. Please forgive me.}  I see kids these days being showered with all the things I never received and I don’t see them any better off than my birth parents, myself or my children were. No matter what generation you are from, your parents could probably do no right. I saw my parents argue and wonder why they didn’t get divorced so they would be happier. I saw a friend grow up wishing her single mother wasn’t divorced. So when I became an adult, I was a single mother and she was the one who stayed married until her youngest was 18. It is a no win situation. No matter how much you try, it will never be enough for your children. At the end of the day, we need to just ask ourselves where we could have done better, do that better thing tomorrow, forgive ourselves for our mistakes of the past and realize that just like us, our birth parents were doing the best they could.

Sex as Love

The line between sex and love is as confusing as ever.  I recently saw this video where a therapist had first heard of a teenage girl who gave a teenage boy oral sex but didn’t like him enough to kiss him. I also saw a different video where a young woman voluntarily performed a weird sex act for a laugh. I gave sex daily to my first boyfriend because I thought that is what was supposed to happen in a loving relationship; even though I really didn’t want the sex to happen. Today… 30 years ago… All were subconscious cries for attention and acceptance and to be desired, and not knowing how to say no or that they could say no, feeling a sense of power and I’m sure many other reasons I know nothing about (or everything about.)

In the world of the uplifted Divine Feminine, sex is supposed to be a sacred act where connection, mutual interest, the upliftment of the sacred receiving vessel called woman is prioritized, and where female orgasms are cherished/prioritized/valued as just as important as a males orgasm. Where a woman is fully open to receive and a man is fully willing to give more than just his erect penis. Where a man is aroused by seeing and a woman is aroused by touch. Where the exchange of energy is mutual, equal and beneficial for both. This is a world I want to live in.

Does every female have to go through 30 years of confusion, mistakes and ‘meh’ in order to realize what she really wants, deserves and needs? How do we teach our daughters to only accept being cherished sexually and our sons not to be only selfishly wanting of only their orgasm? How do we teach them that performing sexually in ways that aren’t uplifting, aren’t healthy? How do we tell them that porn, prostitutes and strippers are not how every woman or man should act like or look like? How do you even bring these conversation up? You could never see your son or daughter as a stripper or prostitute or porn star, but aren’t all those strippers, prostitutes and porn stars the sons and daughters of someone? If you want different for your children, you have to find the way to have the hard conversations with them; not your spouse: but you. Don’t you wish your parents had found a way to have the conversation with you? I wish mine had. It may have lessened some of the 30 years of ‘if I give you sex, surely you’ll give me the kind of love I so desperately want’ mistake. At the very least, look at your ‘stories’ and see how you can improve your love and sex life moving forward. If you want, send you adult children this article and tell them you did the best you could and ask them for forgiveness.

Energetic Connections

Whether you believe it or not, with every sexual act, an energetic connection (cord) is formed between the two people. This energetic connection can be beneficial in mutually giving and receiving relationships but detrimental when one person just takes and takes and takes. Energy is moved from the giver to the taker at an unequal and unfair rate. These energetic connections aren’t magically dissolved when you break up with someone. They stay until you remove them on an energetic level. You could be 60 years old and still be giving your energy to that horrible person from 40 years ago that is no longer in your life. This fact alone should have everyone upgrading their sex life. Add this energetic connection in the mix with lust, passion, love, hormones, the desire to receive love/acceptance, the desire to please, the want of orgasmic release and it is no wonder that the line between sex and love is so blurred. Then as the relationship moves through time, throw in a little I don’t trust you that much, you hurt me when you said/did this to me, I’m not giving you what you want/need and you aren’t giving me what I want/need, and the intimate act of sex becomes less intimate and more a playing field for physical fulfillment and a battlefield; instead of the sacred act of union it should be. {I am guilty of this} Things are not only FUBAR on a physical level, but emotionally, mentally, on a soul level and energetically as well.

All these old, unfair, unfruitful ways of thinking, believing, and acting need to change within everyone to change this world and the world of our future generations; and that change begins with you.

I’m not a prude and I sure as hell don’t want sex to be boring but for me, it has to be about more than just a physical act where one person’s needs are put above another’s. Where men get to see what turns them on when their goddess is standing before them in thigh highs and where women get to feel what turns them on when they are touched, adored, cherished and loved.

Make me your Queen as I make you my King.

(c) words and image: Mariposa Evolution, written on 08.24.17

First Moves to Make Your Life Better

Merry-Go-Round Living

There is a way to live where in order to make your life better: you expect things outside of yourself to change. This is not the best way to live.

  • He/She needs to do something different to make your life better.
  • That situation affecting your life needs to change in order to make your life better.

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Self Confidence Manifesto

Self Confidence Manifesto

By Jennifer Mariposa

I make a decision today to commit to and practice Self Confidence and Self Love.

I am willing to exude confidence and show myself love.

I choose to feel good about myself and take steps daily to enrich myself.

I prioritize feeling good about myself; it is the rule, not the exception.

I commit to paying attention to my thoughts, words, feelings and actions.

When I notice negative thoughts, or lack of positive thought, I will PIVOT.

I will take 3 deep breaths and say something kind & uplifting to myself.

I will breathe love energy into my heart and receive that love into my being.

I will take the feelings of love I give to others and aim them at myself.

I will feel that love enter my being to expand and uplift me.

If I still feel like I am spiraling downward, I will:

  • Feel the emotions and cry, letting them flow through me then quickly out. I will feel the emotions without attaching to them; which would inevitable make me spiral downward further. Feel them; don’t think or attach to them.
  • Listen to uplifting music: uplifting beats and uplifting words
  • Grab my Goddess Happiness Box of uplift-ment tools and use them
  • Turn on my YouTube Emergency Happiness playlist
  • Journal, Meditate, Ego Eradicator Kriya, Pray, Ask for Help, take a nap!

I choose today to work towards making this a positive deeply seeded pattern by taking actions steps daily.

I will find and use uplifting, kind & enthusiastic words to raise my vibration.

Today, I will remember the woman who exuded Self Confidence and Light when she walked. I will consciously choose to exude those same characteristics. I choose to act as if.

How would a person who is Self Confident act? Act as if.

I do not look towards outside sources to fulfill my need to feel good about myself.

I am learning how to fuel my fire from within instead.

02.04.17   © MariposaEvolution.com with wise advice from Be Joy, Rachel Sheffler, Daniela Ruiz & Andrea Iapaolo

Stop Sucking My Life Force Negative Thoughts!

Do you ever pay attention to the thoughts that move through your mind? Have you noticed how many of them are negative? How many times have you caught yourself thinking about something that is bothering you and you have been thinking about the same crap for hours? All of this negative thinking is creating our futures. What we think of actually happens in our lives. I am sick of my negative thoughts creating my future. I am trying to change something very hard to change: deeply embedded thought patterns.

Don’t get me wrong here. I am NOT a proponent of sticking our heads in the sand and ignoring our problems as a way to deal with Negative Thought Patterns. I believe we have to look at our problems, think of a good way to deal with them and then take action to deal with them (aka the analytical process.) This to me is positive growth and movement forward in our life. Where this analytical process goes wrong is when we think of this crap all day long and/or can’t go to sleep at night because we can’t stop thinking about it because we are choosing to not deal directly with it. (Letting outside circumstances control our lives instead of taking responsibility for our lives. Yes, choosing not to deal directly with it is letting outside circumstances control our lives.)

If we don’t address the things in our life that are bothering us, our negative thought patterns will continue to rage out of control, keep us down, lower our life force energy and create more negative things for us to think about in the future.

I dare you to get vulnerable in your journal through the action steps below, RIGHT NOW. Take responsibility for your life now. 

Action Steps ~ Dealing with this issue to subdue negative thought patterns via a Divinely Inspired Analytical Process:
  1. Grab a journal and write out everything that is bothering you about this issue and don’t forget to write about how this makes you feel. If you have the urge to cry, then go ahead and express those emotions and any others that may come up. Don’t just write one measly paragraph. This crap is taking up a lot of space in your precious thinking time during the day and all those thoughts and feelings can’t be written in one paragraph. Don’t start giving yourself reasons why you can’t do this: “I don’t have the time.” If you want to change your life you have to make the time to deal with negative patterns within yourself. They won’t just magically go away and ignoring them only makes them grow stronger.
  2. After you have written out everything, take deep breaths to calm down and connect to Source. Ask/pray  a) that all of this weight be lifted off your shoulders, b) that you will see and learn your lessons c) that you surrender all this negativity and that d) a better path of movement forward be shown to you. Believe and Trust.
  3. After this process, you will feel worn out. Take a nap if you need to. You deserve one because you just processed a lot on an emotional, mental and energetic level. After you sleep, I swear, you will feel lighter. When you feel lighter, then better ideas will come to you on how to deal with this situation in a healthier way. Please note that these better ideas will come up at the most inconvenient times. Don’t ignore them or think “I will remember that and take care of it tonight.” Whenever any part of an idea comes up, write it down immediately.  This will also tell your mind that you are not giving it permission to spiral down a negative wormhole. You are only open to new ideas flowing. The best case scenario would be that you have an idea and are able to sit down immediately to do step 4. Do not let this step stop you in your tracks because you aren’t having any new ideas come to you. You may already have the ideas and solution but are unwilling to follow through on them, which is unacceptable it you want to make your life better.
  4. Later in the day, go over your notes and devise a plan to move forward. The ideas may continue to come up over a day or two. This process should NOT be dragged out a way to avoid addressing the problem. If you are not coming up with solutions, then you will need to spend some time in meditation to allow the answer to come to you from Source & Intuition. (Prayer is talking to Source. Meditation is listening to Source.)
  5. The answers you come up with in your plan to move forward will be hard and they will probably scare you too, as you will more than likely be stepping out of your comfort zone. You can’t please everyone and not everyone will be happy with your decisions but this is YOUR LIFE: not theirs. If you don’t do the hard and scary work, this pattern will keep repeating itself in your life by having the same problem come up in different situations with different people. So you have a choice now to do the hard & scary work or to stick your head in the sand as your life continues to spiral downward. Which do you choose?

The idea behind these Action Steps is that when you get the thoughts written down, they tend to leave your head and stop torturing you. This will in turn keep you from spending time thinking negatively and open the pathways for new ideas and ways to fix the problem. This is not a be-all, end-all solution to abolish negative thoughts. It is a way to deal with one part of the negative thought patterns.

Humans love to control the outcome, even by avoidance, but sometimes, when we get a moment of peace from Negative Thoughts, Divinely inspired solutions will present themselves to help us move forward.

~ Jennifer

(C) All images & content: www.MariposaEvolution.com

A New Year, A New Start: 2017

2017

2017 is a numerology number 1 year. {2+0+1+7=10=1+0=1} The energy behind a year 1 is beginning and starting. I have joyfully seen many people putting energy into their Life Purposes, goals and resolutions on Instagram. I have been doing the same on my Instagram account and by writing this Blog Article today. But many of us have been trying for years to get our Positive Habits and New Year’s Resolutions in line with our hopes & dreams for a better life. Yet we are still struggling. This year’s energy will help you start new Positive Habits but it is up to YOU to tap into your inner strength and START anew everyday and fulfill your goals and resolutions. This process doesn’t happen overnight and is exactly that: a process. You are not going to magically wake up one day and work out 5 times a week for the rest of your life. You have to work on making it a habit. Continue reading

Abundance Block Breakthrough

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Imagine when you sleep you have this dream. You enter a shop with a friend to see if your old hair stylist still works there. The shop is still owned by the same person but it is no longer a hair salon. You don’t know what the shop is now. The owner asks you and your friend to sit down so he can show you what the shop now sells. You sit down on comfortable seats and he comes out with the most gorgeous lamp shade you have ever seen AND it matches your decor. Then when he brings in the matching lamp, it is a work of art to behold. (And you didn’t even know you could love a lamp so much!) All your want and desire says “give it to me”, but you think “I can’t afford that” and you now try to find a way to politely say no to store owner. As you are leaving, he pulls your pregnant girlfriend aside into the back room. She comes out with a smaller lamp that is perfect for her nursery. He GIFTED it to her. While you are so happy she received a perfect gift for free, you wonder why she received a gift and you didn’t… ?!?!?!!!!

SHE BELIEVED AND YOU DIDN’T!

What did she believe that you didn’t? (And yes, I woke up dreaming that dream!)

In your quest for positive change on your abundance path, have you ever wondered “Why do rich people have money and I don’t? What do they think differently to manifest abundance that I don’t think? How were they raised differently than I was that FINANCIAL ABUNDANCE is in their life but it isn’t part of yours? Is it because they are smarter or because they know the right people or because they work more hours?” I don’t believe they are smarter, or know the right people, or because they work more hours; though all of those things may be present for them. You are smart, aren’t you? You know good people. You work many hours. I have always believed that it had to do with how wealthy people were raised. What did their parents teach them that ours didn’t? And no, I don’t mean that they were taught to save and invest in certain stocks, though that has an effect. How were they raised that made them believe they could be financially abundant instead of poor or just getting by? What did they believe that we didn’t believe? This is important because as I’m sure you’ve heard on the spiritual path, what we think comes true for us: our thoughts create our life. What they are thinking is coming true for them. It is like the rich automatically know they will have lots of money in their life always. They grow up with lots of money and they don’t know what it is like to not have money. They only know what it is like to have money, so they always have it. (This is obviously a generalization. Side note: I read this money book written by a person who grew up with wealthy parents. She wasn’t able to tell us poor people what we really needed because it was SO much a part of her that she didn’t even know it was a thing and thought we all thought like her. Research a poor person and how they changed their life to get rich; not one who grew up wealthy.) We were raised with  no money or little money and in a place of scarcity. All we know is what it is like to grow up ‘just getting by’, ‘living pay check to pay check’ or in lack. What we need to do is make having financial abundance an automatic state of being instead having lack as an automatic state of being.  (Abundant Maserati Dreaming….)

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I read something once that said I should walk around and see everything I can’t afford to buy and say “I can afford that.” This was supposed to change my Lack programming and bring me more financial abundance. To walk around and say “I can afford that” when I didn’t have the money in the bank didn’t sit well with me. I don’t want to discount the Fake It Until You Make It path. I do believe it can work in some areas of you life, but not in areas where it was too far out of your comfort zone/ability to believe it. (See Cognitive Dissonance below.) All saying “I can afford this” did was make me feel like a liar; which isn’t me.

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Don’t you see that the “I can’t afford that” thought is limiting your flow of income? You block the flow of money by thinking I can’t afford that. You don’t give the Universe an opportunity to flow money to you if you stop that flow with “I can’t.” So how do you get around the reality of “I don’t have the money in my bank so I can’t buy it” to a place where you stop blocking your abundance?  (Maserati dreaming…)

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YOU HAVE TO GET OUT OF YOUR BRAIN OF THINKING I CAN’T AFFORD IT AND GET INTO THE TRUSTING OF YOUR PATH AND THE BELIEVING OF THE UNIVERSE TO PROVIDE TO YOU EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT AND BE OPEN TO RECEIVE IT. What you want, not what you need or deserve but what you wantYou will always believe you can afford what you need but you never believe you can get what you really want, do you?

So how do you get away from the brain/reality of I can’t and into the trusting & believing?

  1. Placate your rational mind by acknowledging that you can’t afford it in this moment. Only dwell on this thought for 2 seconds. We don’t want to continue to look at our lack and continue to create more lack. We simply want to placate our logical brain by admitting that at this moment, we cannot afford it, then we want to forget about it.
  2. Trust your path by knowing that the Universe does not want you to live in lack. It wants you to flourish. You are the one that put up the Abundance Blocks, regardless of who told you all those stupid limiting beliefs of lack. It is YOUR job to change your mind and life to let those limiting beliefs go, regardless of who is to blame for putting them there. So instead of always thinking you are always going to live in lack, trust that your life is meant for bigger things than lack. Trust the Universe wants you to THRIVE, not just survive.  Trust the Universe even though there is currently NO evidence to support that this statement is true. Trust in the mystery and magic and flow of the Universe. Anything can happen and anything has happened to you before, good or bad. So why can’t you consciously create a future where better things happen in the financial arena? You can. You just have to know there is a different path and be able to trust. And don’t just SAY you Trust, actually KNOW you Trust. How do you KNOW you Trust? You just know it is not your job to worry about it or think incessantly about the lack of money. It is your job to know the Universe has your back; while you take positive steps forward like paying $5 extra a month on each credit card.
  3. Believe the Universe will give you what you need AND want AND desire. Believe the Universe will flow financial abundance into your life even though you don’t know how it will happen. Believe that you won’t have to work a million hours a week or at a job that sucks the life out of you in order to obtain financial abundance. Be selfish and KNOW that you deserve to be wealthy and that wealth is a new set point of your new life; not a dream but a place of living. Think of what it feels like to dream of: (enter what makes you happy to think you could have it. example: Maserati) That feeling of having your dream is the same feeling as believing in the Universe to give it to you.  Think of that thing you want, feel that amazing feeling, and then think of that as the same as the Universe actually giving it to you. That feeling is believing in the Universe. And once again here, you have to actually believe and not just SAY you believe.
  4. Be open to receive financial abundance from any possible path of the highest light vibration aka any positive path. You don’t have to be worthy to receive. Just think of some of the ass hats you know of personally and publicly that are wealthy. They are ass hats and are wealthy! You don’t have to be a saint, or be 100% perfect, or lead a life of envy, or have excellent self esteem, etc. in order to be open to receive financial abundance. You just have to be open to receive abundance just as you are now and where you are now. Do this by consciously stating this to the Universe every day when you wake up and really believe it when you say it. Go one now, put a not on your bathroom mirror or as a reminder on your cell phone.
  5. Wash, Rinse, Repeat. Repeat this practice over and over again, EVEN when you don’t see the evidence manifesting; especially then. Repeat, repeat, repeat. You have spent how many years on this earth believing “I can’t.” It won’t change overnight!!! Think of how hard it is to change deeply seeded patterns. You are changing the pattern of sustained lack into the pattern of sustained, evergreen wealth. Repeat, repeat, repeat.
TRUST noun: firm belief in the reliability, truth,
     ability, or strength of someone or something.
BE·LIEVE verb: accept (something) as true; feel 
                        sure of the truth of it.

NOTE: Are you one of those people who are reading this article and saying “but it doesn’t work!” It does work because I have had it work in my life. I have to be blunt and honest here. If it isn’t working then YOU aren’t doing the steps above. Hell, I’m not doing the freaking steps and it isn’t working in my life now! IF YOU DON’T CHANGE WHAT YOU ARE DOING IN YOUR LIFE AND IN YOUR MIND, YOUR LIFE WILL REMAIN THE SAME.  Same shit, different day is NOT how I want to live my life. Stop making excuses and DO THE WORK.

I had a conversation with my significant other earlier this year about getting a “new car.” I found out that my idea of a new car was a 2016 right off the lot and his idea of a new car was a used car that was new-to-him-owning.  Big difference! About a month ago, I started to give into this thinking. I asked him seriously, “what kind of car could we buy for $2,000?” I realize today that I had given up my dream for a new car off the lot for his dream of what we can maybe afford. I had given up the trust and belief and listened to my brain. That makes me feel really sad. (Please don’t get me wrong here! I am not saying you should go into debt to buy expensive things. I am saying that it is okay to want the expensive things and trust your path and believe in the Universe to make miracles happen in your life when you are open to changing your life and changing your current limiting beliefs. I have always believed that us humans have the ability to be Neo but we can’t get past the trust and belief.)

I know I have the power to manifest and I know everyone else has that ability too. Two times in my life I manifested huge, financially impossible miracles (and I look forward to manifesting more!) One time I wanted to go on a plane trip. Every time I saw a plane flying, I would point to it and say “That is going to be me someday”; and I believed it with all my heart. Yes, I manifested a plane trip to Atlanta on business for my job. The second, more recent time, I wanted to go on a out-of-my-state vacation. I manifested a working humanitarian trip to the Gulf Coast. I know Conscious Creation and manifesting works and now I want to center my life on manifesting more often through acknowledgement, trust, belief and receiving.

We are all able to Consciously Create our lives. We are all able to live in financial abundance and we don’t have to be born into wealth in order to live it. Let’s start Consciously Creating good instead of manifesting the same old bullshit. ~Jennifer Mariposa

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JOURNALING PROMPTS: How am I currently limiting my life’s expansion by believing and living limiting thoughts and actions? What are those limiting barriers that are blocking me?

What do I want to consciously create in my life?

What beliefs do I need to change in order to change my life for the better?  HOW will I change those beliefs? (Don’t just say you are going to change. What concrete steps will you take to change everyday?)   {Beach House dreaming…..}

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Who am I? I am a regular person who is trying to find their way through life and trying to make it better. I believe everyone can make their life better in mind, body and soul through positive change. I am here to inspire, motivate and mentor you. Please see my programs to work with me on changing your life for the better in mind, body and soul practices.

(c) Blog Article by Mariposa Evolution

Worry is A Prayer for Chaos

Worry is wasted energy

I am not worry free but I am Way better than before. It doesn’t happen overnight; you have to keep stopping those worry thoughts when they visit you. Keep trying every day!

👀 See I used to worry about not having enough money and also at the same time worry the car/furnace/sewer/etc would break and we wouldn’t have the money for it. My husband told me yesterday that he still worries about this shit. I’m glad he told me because I realize how much better my thought patterns have gotten. Now instead, I think: I am thankful I have a running car, a working furnace and an unplugged sewer. My thoughts don’t even go to them breaking.

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Has Anyone Ever Told You “You’re Ugly”?

Today I came across a post by a friend who was talking about how 2 girls tortured her when she was young by calling her ugly on a daily basis. Her story brought up a similar one from my past. I was teased starting in grade school starting about 4th grade. I was teased for various reasons: being called a nerd because I was smart and wore eyeglasses, being called a whore because my last name started with the sound of that word (at a time when I didn’t even know what a whore was) and being called ugly. All of this affected me at a very deep level for many years. Even when I got contacts at the age of 16, I still spent so much time on trying to look less ugly. I kept trying to make myself prettier and prettier because I didn’t know I was beautiful already. And I won’t even get into how my parents unknowingly supported those horrible words because they never told me the opposite: that I WAS pretty or beautiful. As children, we spend so much of our time looking for approval, first from our parents and then from those at school. It truly is a shame that most of us were raised to look outside ourselves for approval. Here are the steps I took to heal the pain from my past.  Continue reading

Celebrate the Most Important Thing when You Accomplish a Goal

The sun is shining bright today, 03.11.15. This is the first week it has been Spring temperatures after a long and unusually extremely cold winter. All I want to do is go out to the park and take a walk but I am feeling the urge to write an article about this subject. I have thought about writing on this subject before and NOW is the time to do it. Why now? Because I think I’ve made a big breakthrough during this Astrological Grand Finale where old, deep seeded patterns are being brought to the surface for healing and releasing. I am hoping to inspire others to heal themselves as I share this very personal post where I walk you through my healing process.

I have noticed over the past year that when I reach a goal, I don’t celebrate it. I LOVE starting new things; historically I’m just not so good at finishing them. I have made big strides with finishing what I start over the past couple years but I am still left with an unfortunate side effect of that bad habit: instead of being happy that I have accomplished a goal/finished something I started, I am just nothing about it. It just slips through my life without proper notice and celebration. I actually feel happier when I start something then when I end it. How screwed up is that? Isn’t it supposed to be the other way around: happier at the end with a sense of joy and pride?

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Being Willing to Change Makes All the Difference

 

I write this blog to be a testament to my commitment to being Willing to Change. It is my hope to inspire you to start the process of positive change in your life by taking the first step:                            Become Willing to Change.

Yesterday was a hard but profound day for me. My intention was to work on my Life Purpose but I was quickly derailed. Continue reading

New Year’s Resolutions Yay or Nay?

People are all over the fence when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions.  Where do you stand? Some people hate. Some people love them. Me? I totally respect anything that motivates Positive Change in people but I also believe that you don’t have to wait until January 1st to start a Positive Change.

Here are 2 underlying factors that contribute to how people feel about New Year’s Resolutions:  Continue reading

Don’t Get Derailed Off Your Positive Path

When we are new on a Path of Positive Change, we have to be very careful of whom & what we allow into our lives at that time. We are just planting seeds and growing roots into positive behaviors. We need to safeguard our Seedlings with the Protection of a mother bear. If we don’t guard ourselves, we will find that our Path of Positive Change becomes a Path of Failure. When we fail, most of the time, we don’t get back up… and we don’t want to be there.  So, in essence, Protecting out Path of Positive Change is one way to help block Failure. You are a Seedling and you need to safeguard your Path of Positive Change like that mother bear!

Here are some examples of setting yourself up for Failure by not Protecting your Path of Positive Change: Continue reading